Gift etiquette
How to say “no gifts, please” on an invitation
Use warm, clear wording for birthdays, housewarmings, and small gatherings where you’d like guests to come empty-handed.
If you don't want gifts, say “No gifts, please” in the invitation. Put it near the RSVP details so people can find it. Avoid offering a gift list alongside the request, because guests then have to decide which instruction you mean.
Use wording that suits the occasion
Pick a line that sounds like you and fits why you're gathering.
- Birthday: “No gifts, please. Come for cake and a catch-up.”
- Kids’ party: “Please skip gifts. A drawing or card is welcome if your child wants to make one.”
- Housewarming: “Come see the new place. Please leave the gifts at home.”
Decide whether cards or help are welcome
If you would love a recipe, a handwritten memory, or help setting up, say that it's optional. If you really want guests to show up without bringing anything, leave out the alternative. People can spend the evening with you without preparing something first.
Answer the guest who insists on bringing something
Thank them for asking and repeat the request. “That’s kind of you. We really are all set. I’d love to see you on Saturday.” A consistent answer helps guests arrive without worrying they missed an unspoken rule.
Handle an unexpected gift quietly
Thank the person and set the gift aside. There's no need to open it in front of everyone, especially if other guests followed the invitation. Follow up privately if you want to acknowledge the gesture.
Use these ideas with Piki
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